The Downside of Using Social Media and Technology During a Divorce

By: Castle and Monarch Date: May 5, 2017 Finances Blog

It’s hard to remember a time before technology and social media was a big part of our lives. Even though they seem to be woven into all aspects of our lives, etiquette and common sense regarding posting on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or even sending text messages can elude many people. Then throw in the strong emotions that come with the divorce process and you have a recipe for disaster.

Often times it’s best to just forego all of the potential traps of social media by not using it at all until your divorce is final, but if you just can’t help logging in and sharing, here are some things to avoid.

Social Media Rants

So you just need to vent, right? Pick up a phone and call a friend. Write a letter. Talk to your cat. Just don’t do it on social media. Odds are, you’re “friends” with someone who is friends with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and your posts can be shared or copied.
TIP: Keep in mind that NOTHING is private on social media. If you wouldn’t read the post to a judge in court, then don’t post it.

Showing Off Proof of Lifestyle

Who doesn’t like a photo of a handcrafted cocktail or a stunning sunset? You just have to share it on social media, right? Keep in mind that anything you post is admissible in court and if you’re posting too many partying pictures or showing you’re traveling to expensive locations it could be telling a story other than the one you would like told in court.
TIP: Hold off on the more personal or reveling photos until after your divorce and settlement is completed.

Setting Up a Dating profile

We get it. You’re ready to move on, but your divorce isn’t final. Jumping on a dating site when you’re still legally married is at best bad form. These profiles along with comments and communications can come back to haunt you during the divorce process.
TIP: Take this time to focus on your children (if you have them) or on something other than another romantic relationship. There will be plenty of time to begin again.

Sending heated text messages

You feel you have a good point to make and you shoot off a text that takes jabs at your ex-spouse or send a venomous text to one of your kids about their other parent but these things could end up hurting YOU more than the person you’ve intended to target. We see this all the time. Both email and texts are admissible in court.
Tip: Before you send a text check yourself. Reread what you wrote or read it to a friend and take out anything that doesn’t need to be included. For instance, insults, regurgitating the past, accusations and sarcasm don’t NEED to be a part of a text about a child’s pick up time.